Importance of Relationships
Talking about importance of relationships to combat burn out, process improvement, ways to manage career, and life.
- Removing listening blocks to improve relationships.
- How being future focused can make you lose sight of the present.
- Having an emotional and physical plan for the day.
- Using process improvement to make life more efficient.
- Entering flow state with rap music.
- Building the habit of showing up.
- Learning to embrace being uncomfortable and producing anyway.
12 Listening Blocks That Hinder Relationships
Summarized from “Messages: The Communication Skill Book” by Matthew McKay, Martha Davis, Patrick Fanning.
Comparing
- Difficult to listen when you are seeing if you measure up.
Minding Reading
- Believing you know what the person is actually saying with only your intuition, or vague misgivings to guide you.
Rehearsing
- No time to listen when you are rehearsing what to say.
Filtering
- Listening only to confirm if someone is angry, unhappy, or if you are in danger.
- Can also be used to avoid hearing threatening, negative, or critical comments.
Judging
- Forming your opinion before hearing and evaluating the content.
- Causes listening to cease, and jumping to conclusions.
Dreaming
- Half listening until something triggers a memory, then you are back in your private world.
- If this is a pattern with a certain party, could be you do not value what they have to say.
Identifying
- Things heard are related back to your own experiences and now you are occupied crafting your story to tell.
Advising
- Offering advise after a cursory listen, leaves the party feeling more alone and unheard.
Sparring
- Focus is on things to disagree with.
- The put-down
- Dismissing what the party is saying with a sharp cutting comments.
- Discounting
- Bringing yourself down after hearing a compliment.
- Leaves party feeling unheard when expressing their appreciation.
- The put-down
Being Right
- Focus on avoiding criticism, and resistant to change.
Derailing
- Quick subject changes.
- Responding with jokes to avoid any serious listening.
Placating
- Agreeing with everything, instead of listening.
- Comes from wanting the party to accept you.